Welcome to my guest author for this post, Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. He is a licensed psychologist and author of multiple books on the topic of mindfulness, including the recent release The Now Effect: How a Mindful Moment Can Change the Rest of Your Life. I highly recommend his book to you. It includes multimedia training to build your mindful awareness in moments throughout your day when you use the scan access videos through your smartphone on command. The mentoring this provides really goes a long way in getting you accustomed to taking mindful breaks and being in the NOW.
In this blogpost today, (reprinted with permission) Dr. Goldstein addresses a concept that comes in the form of a question, which Dr. Goldstein and Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn suggest we ask ourselves when life’s demands seem overwhelming to us. A simple question with a centering result.
I (Dr. Goldstein) was recently at a conference introducing Jon Kabat-Zinn and the beginning of the talk focused around my experience when I read page 14 of his book Wherever You Go, There You Are. This was a particularly difficult time in my life when I was feeling uneasy, confused and dissatisfied with things. Now, if you’ve read this book you know he has all kinds of wonderful suggestions in it to sprinkle the philosophy and practice of mindfulness into everyday life. But when I came upon this one section it said to try reminding yourself from time to time that “this is it.” And I said, “Really, this is it?” This is all there is? Well, apparently it was…
Later on that day I stood looking at the Golden Gate Bridge in awe at the beauty of San Francisco and the headlands and the phrase naturally arose in my mind, “this is it.” What a wonderful moment.
That phrase has since traveled with me as a friend reminding me to accept the reality of each moment as it is. When I was sad, this is it! When I was joyful, this is it! When I was anxious, frustrated, or bored, this is it!
Learning how to accept the moment as it was opened my eyes to so much more.
Jack Kornfield’s teacher Ajahn Chah, says something similar, his phrase is “It’s like this.”
Some wise person a long time ago said, “It is what it is.”
There are so many ways to drop us into the present moment, into a state of accepting the reality of what is here and out of the state of avoidance.
Try bringing this simple phrase into your life and see what happens. Once in a while say to yourself, “This is it!”
The truth is, it’s never more or less than this.
Having an understanding of where we are in any particular moment is the basis for self-acceptance.
Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice in West Los Angeles and is author of The Now Effect, co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook, Foreword by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of the Mindful Solutions at Work App, the Mindful Solutions audio series, and the Mindfulness at Work program currently being adopted in multiple multinational corporations. Join Elisha Goldstein’s Facebook Community to keep up with important information, tips and events.